The Peace Treaty: which types it suits

A peace treaty is a short set of rules for future disagreements, written together once the current one is over. 'No serious talks after midnight', 'No saying always or never', 'Nobody leaves without saying when they'll be back' – a handful of clauses you can actually keep is enough. Only things you both agree to go in. Naming the treaty together is optional but recommended.

When the same fight keeps coming back, changing how you argue is worth more than winning this round. With rules in place, both of you have something to lean on when things start to slip. It suits people who feel settled once things are organised, and couples who like to see the pattern behind the problem. The treaty isn't one person's list of demands; it's something you write together, and instead of penalties for breaking it, the deal is simply to talk it through again.